Today I’m going to write to you about why you should not listen to a speech therapist. I know that’s going to cause a little bit of controversy, gonna raise a couple of eyebrows and perhaps even upset a few people but I’m okay with that. If you actually listen to what I have to say you will understand specifically what it is that I’m referring to and how it applies in the real world.
Should You Listen Everything Your Speech Therapist Tells You?
Let me first address and acknowledge the fact that speech therapists are very educated, very clever, very smart people and more often than not have your best interests at heart. I’m not going to diminish the value that they bring. They’re tremendous at what they do. They’ve helped millions of people over many years speech therapists have been around. Millions of people across the world have benefited from speech therapists but there are a couple of points that I’d like to address. There are three key points I’m going to talk to you about today and how it all applies in the real world.speech therapist
Is Changing The Way You Speak A Way To Stop Stuttering And Stammering?
The first thing I wanted to talk to you today is a technique or a strategy that you learn and that you’ll be told how to implement when dealing with a speech therapist. It is about changing the way you speak to make it resemble you singing. It’s a common strategy being taught and applied by speech therapist and clients of speech therapists.
If you’re like the majority of the stutterers and stammerers out there in the world odds are you can actually sing without stuttering. You can sing fluently without having a stutter or a stammer. One strategy I mentioned speech therapists teach is to speak almost as though you were singing. In other words to change the rhythm of your speech pattern. Very often that method actually helps people and reflects positively in overcoming their stutter or stammer.
The reason I disagree with this is that what you’re doing is you’re actually rewiring your brain to speak differently. If you are able to speak in private fluently then it’s evident that you can actually speak without stuttering. What you’ve got to focus on doing is rewiring your brain to allow you to do the same thing in public in front of other people. It’s about rewiring your brain and creating that new association that you do not stutter or stammer. What you’re taught by a speech therapist to do is to effectively rewire your brain and the way you speak, to create a new habit whereby you were speaking in a rhythm.speech therapist
To me, that doesn’t make too much sense because if you’re going to be putting in all this effort to transform the way you speak in order to speak with the rhythm you may as well do the same thing and rewire your brain to speak fluently.
It is possible to overcome stuttering and stammering and we at Lifetime Fluency teach you how to do that. Other people also teach you how to do that. My belief is that if you’re going to put in all that effort and time into learning how to rewire your brain and create a new habit around your speaking you may as well do so to speak fluently, naturally, and confidently. That’s my first point about why you shouldn’t always listen to your speech therapists.speech therapist
Is Avoiding Certain Trigger Words In Your Speech A Method To Reduce Your Stuttering And Stammering?
The second point that I want to talk to you about today is again another strategy or another technique that’s taught to help you overcome and reduce your stutter. This strategy is about avoiding trigger words, trigger sounds, triggers syllables, trigger consonants. In other words basically avoiding certain words that cause you to stutter.
Firstly you’ve got to identify those words, consonants, vowels, and sounds but that’s pretty easy to do. It requires you to retrain your brain, rewire the way you speak and think so you can avoid those words. You’re rewiring your brain or retraining yourself to avoid these words just as you were in a previous point being taught to speak in a rhythm. Once again if you can speak fluently when you’re alone you should be able to learn how to speak fluently without a stutter when you’re in public.
I want to share with you a very quick story that Mo, Muhammad Sidibe, was talking to me about. We’ve gone back a few years now when Mo had a stutter and basically he was explaining a story to me like this…He was in a conversation with a friend or an associate of his several years ago when he stutter was fairly intense. This was a one-on-one conversation and it got to a point where Moe was having to introduce his uncle into the conversation. They started talking about his uncle but Mo rather than introducing or referring to his uncle as his uncle when answering the question by his associate, he had addressed his uncle as his mother’s brother. Basically, he said that my mother’s brother this and that and he can’t exactly remember the actual reason why his uncle came into the conversation. Bottom line is he addressed his uncle as his mother’s brother because he knew in his mind that the un… in uncle is a trigger point for him. He knew he was going to stutter and he was taught, whoever taught him that, told him to avoid the word uncle or the sound un… and that’s what he did. The implication on that was that it was implied to the other person listening to him that there was a bad relationship between him and his uncle. The third person that Mo was also speaking to had asked him do you guys actually have a bad relationship, why are you calling your uncle your mother’s brother?
I believe you can’t spend the rest of your life avoiding triggers. I believe you can’t spend your whole life, the rest of your life, avoiding keywords that cause those triggers. If you’re going to spend the time and effort into rewiring your brain and retraining yourself to learn how to avoid those triggers you may as well put that effort and time into learning how to speak fluently, confidently, and courageously naturally. Normally talking, the way you do privately, you can learn how to do the same thing in public. That is the second point about why I believe you shouldn’t always listen to your speech therapist.
Can The Help Of Speech Monitors Help You Stop Stuttering And Stammering?
The third thing I want to talk to you today about is something called a speech monitor. A speech monitor is basically something that’s attached to your outer ear and what it does for you is it alters sound frequencies, and it uses delayed feedback to help a person regulate their speech. It’s very similar to the effect of changing the rhythm of your speech because it is changing the frequency of how you hear the sound and how you hear yourself. It is very effective in helping you overcome your stutter but my question to you is this: Do you really want to spend your entire life having something attached to your ear so you can speak fluently?
The reality is, there are things you can do, strategies you can learn, techniques you can understand and implement to transfer that speech pattern into a public setting, into a scenario where you are speaking fluently in front of other people, in one-on-one and group situations, at a conference, on stage and other.
There’s absolutely no reason you can’t transfer how you’re speaking privately to how you speak publicly. Those are the three key things and the three key reasons why I personally think and disagree with the speech therapist and what they teach.
If you’ve enjoyed this post, if you got something out of it, firstly I’m really happy that you did, but would also very much appreciate your feedback. Hopefully, I haven’t caused too much pain if you are a speech therapist or you dealing with one. I truly believe that anyone can become a fluent speaker if they put their mind to it and if they put in the effort, really consistent effort, to do just that to form that new habit.
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